The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse
Most couples don't set out to hurt one another.
The difficulty is that when relationships become strained, people can find themselves caught in patterns of communication that leave both partners feeling hurt, misunderstood and disconnected.
Assertiveness in Relationships Case Study
John comes to me seeking psychotherapy to help with depression and relationship issues. He says that he is no longer getting on with Sarah, they bicker all the time, and can’t seem to have a conversation without it turning into an argument.
Why Behaviour Often Changes Feelings Better Than Trying to Change Feelings Directly
Thoughts, feelings and behaviours aren't equally under our control and spending too much time trying to get rid of anxiety can leave us feeling even more stuck.
So if trying to control our thoughts and feelings isn't always the answer, what should we focus on instead?
Why Fighting Your Thoughts and Feelings Can Make Them Stronger
Thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are not equally under our control. While our actions are often something we can choose, emotions are much less responsive to direct commands, and thoughts sit somewhere in between.