Why Fighting Your Thoughts and Feelings Can Make Them Stronger
Thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are not equally under our control. While our actions are often something we can choose, emotions are much less responsive to direct commands, and thoughts sit somewhere in between.
What Can We Actually Control?
Most people come to therapy because there is something happening inside them that they don't like. They may be struggling with anxiety, low mood, anger, guilt, self-doubt, or unwanted urges. This raises an important question. How much control do we actually have over our thoughts, feelings, and actions?
Why Avoiding Anxiety Often Makes It Worse
Something feels too difficult. A conversation you must have, a place you need to go, a situation that makes your chest tighten. And so, quietly, you find a way around it. You cancel. You make an excuse. You tell yourself you'll do it another time. And then, almost immediately, you feel better.
The Invisible Hand: How Our Information Supply Shapes Our World
People describe a world that feels increasingly hostile, divided, and difficult to trust. What is often happening beneath the surface is something we rarely notice. The information we take in is not just shaping what we think, it is quietly shaping what we experience as real.